So, I was an officer in the U.S. Navy. I kind of enjoyed being able to sternly raise my voice if I needed my division of all-male technicians to meet a weapons maintenance deadline. I enjoyed the power to take away their liberty (free time) if I found them sleeping when they were supposed to be working. I could always argue my lawyer-like point of view with the Captain or Admiral and get results.
The few times my “military side” has shown through in my relationship with Chris have not ended well for me. I end up not getting what I want, I’m crying and he is upset with me. The best way to assert my needs in this domain is with a gentle tone and a sense of trust/dependence on him to satisfy the needs. Presto: new piece of furniture or he starts scooping the yard on a regular basis.
Generally speaking (no pun intended), if you are a woman, want to be payed equally, have equal opportunity (except in the case of submarines but that may come as well) and literally fight for what you believe in: Join the military. I did. If you want to have a husband who starts your car for you on cold mornings, accompanies you to medical appointments and buys you romantic gifts you could benifit from following a couple of simple guidelines. Oh, and if you’re married AND in the military-leave work at work. The home is no place for war games. 🙂
As a sidenote, I did get results when I used a more “feminine” (while still professional/no cleavage here) approach to getting what I wanted in the military. Men are the same whether at home or work when it comes to how they tick. They want to please a pleasant female who trusts they can get the job done. Wait…I think that’s what everyone wants.
Agree or disagree?
If you disagree, I really want to hear why. Also, if you disagree, but have interests in anthropology/psychology, would you ever consider trying the above suggestion to see what kinds of results you get?
Rebecca says
I couldn’t agree more with this. All most men are looking for is a loving woman that speaks sweetly to him. It’s really that simple. Feel free to ball-bust to your heart’s content outside the home. Scale that ladder. Make those millions. But when you are at home with your husband, be attentive to and anticipate his needs. Maintain your appearance, be sexually available, do nice things for him. If you won’t somebody else will.
Christina Warren says
That is well put. I think I want you as my wife! lol. There’s nothing “old” about being old fashioned!