How do you complain to your friends about your significant other?
Things I consider when dealing with discontent:
- Find confidants to discuss concerns with-bottling up discontent can lead to feelings of isolation and can make things far worse in my head. We all deal with many similar relationship situations.
- Prevent myself from making it a habit/addiction-no one likes to feel consistently negative and others do not care to be around it all the time.
- Make note of the great things about our relationship-make the effort to recognize the wonderful reasons I am with my partner and share them.
- Hear what I’m saying-if it is so terrible, do I really want to have this relationship, change it or break ties?
- Look to professionals-if I find myself consumed with frustration, I consider talking to a professional. A nonpartisan perspective is refreshing and can give me a fresh view.
Some complaining is a great way to be authentic and relate to others. Lots of it can lead to alienation and depression! We all want our relationships to be PERFECT so when they feel otherwise it can be disheartening but dealing with conflicts always brings me closer to people. The other great thing about hearing other people’s frustrations is that it makes me feel NORMAL!
What are some ways you deal with frustration? How have you helped a friend who has been overcome by negativity? Have you ever told someone to “break-up” with the person they are upset by?
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