How Do You Keep Your Reciprocal Like Buzz Humming

You know when you are interviewing for a job, a place to live, or going on a first date and there is that moment at the end of the meeting where you close and say, “I would really like this-job/house/happily ever after?” You look for some inkling of approval or disapproval. You usually leave with an idea of what kind of answer you’re going to get. There is that Reciprocal Liking term in psychology where we just tend to like people who seem to like us. Maybe it turns out that you don’t want the job etc but they really seemed to want you so you start to want them.

You go back and forth after you have some time to think:

• I nailed that
• There were some good points I forgot to mention
• That was such a good match
• I think they liked me
• I was way too….

When you’re in the power position of these interactions, how do you end a meeting? Do you like to let everyone think they are leaving with a good chance so you can keep your options open or feel like the “good guy?” Are you direct and make your on-the-spot decisions known immediately? Do you try to purposely give the vibe of a yes or no so the person knows what to expect?

How long do you wait until you decide they are not into you and so then You are not into THEM? Sometimes there is that certain amount of time people need to get reassurance of being wanted before they decide they’re over it. That powerful buzz can easily fade!

How do you decide what time limit is appropriate? What signs do you look for or what guidelines do you follow…the three day rule? So glad Chris called me sooner than that!

Our drive to California starts tomorrow! Here we go! Posting from Oregon.